“They are a million stories, but less of fairy tales”.
This is what a patriarch is flavoured with, all his life and that’s how you emerge as a full-fledged man as they say!
But Aniket, we know what misogyny is; what’s the reverse of it?
Well I prefer it calling, “the rigid and stringent notions & bars that our comrades has set against of what a man has to be like. Just as a cougar (painter) is supposed to sketch the object in front of him, we are asked to dye ourselves as the epitome of masculinity. But guess what, you’re not Iron and you don’t need galvanising!
This blog is no rant to the feminines but rather a provocative approach that disregards the malignant facade that you as a male might have to deal with on a recurring basis.
Let me just widen the scope of misogyny for you people a little, apart from all the objectifying & the whole manifestation of a women. Men face misogyny too, the only difference is that it is deeply ingrained and disguised. How? They ask me!
Let’s talk about a simple instance, a very simple instance and the masses here even might have had heard of it : A boy is not supposed to do this & a boy is not supposed to do that! The very precip of “this” & “that” would mean :
- A boy should never cry because it’s in direct contrast with masculine traits.
- A patriarch shouldn’t let his emotions be just on the surface, which the way I see it, should mean that we males should not have feelings at all.
- Hey man! Are you not supposed to be good at sports.
But the main and potent questions that arises here should be, when tears rolling down our eyes does not differentiate, than why do we have to?
I know boys are supposed to be good at sports but do they really have to?
Why does a man has to choose between conflicts and more conflicts and more bizarre conflicts just to combat with this peculiar eukaryotic gauge and fit into the prototype?
Why does “HE” has to seek for absolution?
Isn’t it ironic enough that we talk about change, but the least we can accept is a KIND MAN! Not that kind men are not preferred but as far as I can see kindness is taken for weakness. I remember being thrashed and badgered for being soft enough around my allies. I was told to man-up, like I should. To make it more surreal and less of an abomination. An abomination of shame.
Growing up my father never taught me the distinctions between a good human and that of a man. No yardsticks were set, no comparisons were drawn and today when I see it, I wasn’t hiding under technicalities of being the Man, the way I was perceived to be. Not falling prey to social definitions and models was the mojo.
To all the folks :
Here’s what you can do and spare us from your unrelenting boxes.
- Stop make us choose from vulnerable options.
- None of us are inferior or superior to each other, so you have got to stop viewing people from the same binoculars.
- Just stop talking about the change you want to witness, be the change. Stop telling your sons to be more and more harsh on themselves.
- Anyone and everyone is entitled to cry as much as they want, not just women because nobody has monopoly over sufferings and tears.
Stop asking for ABSOLUTION. Don’t blame your sons for being soft and stop criticising your daughters that they are stiff.
“But isn’t that what makes a patriarch valiant?” they ask. No, your dense voice does not makes you valiant. Your muscles does not makes your Hercules. Your beard does not makes you a man. Your capability of providing your support to your family makes you a man. Your prestige is what makes you man.
Sabotage, Annihilation & Vanity
I can’t think of any other words to sum up my blog with. The radical essence of these synonymous words is that , when you live under layers and pretend something that you deny to believe is the real truth of your life, you invite nothing but sabotage (self harm) and annihilation (destruction). Play the role you are supposed to play and make your exit rememberable. Fabrication has served no purpose but futility. So to all the men out there be whatever you want to be but don’t hide under technicalities. You don’t have to overcompensate the part with more immodesty just because you were convinced to believe that you do not fit into the archetype.And to the world, we are only humans and we bleed when we fall down.
Live beyond Stigmas!!!
Hope you liked my concept of reverse misogyny! Do tell @AniketSays what you feel about the concept and you are free to poll your opinions in the comments section down!
Have an anti-misogynistic day! Thanks for reading.